When it comes to “losing” your virginity, there’s no one-size-fits-all experience. Virginity can mean different things to different people, and it’s important to remember that your experience is entirely personal.

Here’s a breakdown of 27 key points you should know before deciding to have s3x for the first time.

1. Virginity Means Different Things: Virginity doesn’t have a single definition. For some, it involves not having vaginal, oral, or anal s3x. It’s up to you to define what virginity means for you.

2. S3x Isn’t Just P in V: S3x isn’t only about vaginal penetration with a penis. It can include oral or anal s3x, as well as other forms of intimate contact.

3. Hymens Don’t “Pop”: Contrary to myths, the hymen doesn’t break or “pop.” It’s a flexible piece of tissue that may stretch, but it doesn’t define virginity.

4. Your Hymen Doesn’t Define Virginity: Your hymen is just a body part, and it has no bearing on whether or not you’re a virgin.

5. Your Body Won’t Change: After your first time, your body won’t undergo permanent changes, though you may experience temporary reactions like swelling or flushed skin.

6. There’s No “Post-S3x Look”: After s3x, your body returns to normal, and no one can tell you’ve had s3x unless you tell them.

7. It Won’t Be Like in the Movies: Your first s3xual experience probably won’t look like what you’ve seen in movies. Real-life s3x is often different from what’s portrayed in media.

8. It May Be Uncomfortable, But Shouldn’t Hurt Feeling some discomfort is normal, but s3x shouldn’t be painful. If it is, it could be due to a lack of lubrication or an underlying medical issue.

9. Lubrication Can Help: If natural lubrication is lacking, using lube can make s3x more comfortable.

10. Don’t Expect Blood: You may experience light bleeding during your first time, but it’s usually minimal and shouldn’t be a cause for concern.

11. STIs Can Be Spread Through Any Kind of S3x: Whether it’s vaginal, oral, or anal, STIs can spread through any form of s3xual contact, so always use protection.

12. Pregnancy Can Happen the First Time: Pregnancy is possible the first time you have vaginal s3x, so it’s important to use contraception.

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13. You May Not Orgasm the First Time: It’s common for people with vaginas to not orgasm during their first time due to discomfort or unfamiliarity with their partner.

14. Premature Ejaculation is Common: If you have a penis, you may orgasm faster than expected. This is normal and nothing to worry about.

15. Erectile Dysfunction Can Happen: Stress and anxiety can cause erectile dysfunction, especially if it’s your first time having s3x.

16. Comfort Increases the Chances of Orgasm: Feeling comfortable with yourself and your partner can increase the chances of having a pleasurable experience.

17. Orgasms Aren’t the Only Goal: While orgasms are great, the focus should be on mutual comfort and enjoyment rather than just climaxing.

18. Speak Up About What You Want: Don’t be afraid to communicate your important for both with your partner. It’s feel satisfied.

19. You Don’t Have to Do Anything You’re Uncomfortable With: Consent is key. You should never feel pressured to do anything you’re not comfortable with.

20. You Can Change Your Mind Anytime: If you’re no longer comfortable, you have the right to stop at any time, even during s3x.

21. The “Right Time” Is When You’re Ready: There’s no rush to have s3x. The right time is when you feel emotionally and physically ready.

22. Not Everyone Is Doing It: Despite what you may hear, not everyone is having s3x. Many people are waiting until they’re ready.

23. S3x Isn’t Synonymous with Love: S3x is a physical act and doesn’t necessarily mean love or emotional intimacy. How you feel about it is personal.

24. Your Soul Isn’t at Risk: Whether you have s3x or not, it doesn’t define your moral or spiritual values.

25. S3x Can Change Your Relationship Dynamics: If you have s3x with someone you know, your relationship may change. Make sure to communicate openly about your feelings.

26. Your First Time Doesn’t Define Future S3x: Your first s3xual experience doesn’t set the tone for all future encounters. Every time can be different.

27. You Can Always Try Again: If your first time isn’t what you expected, you can always try again. S3x is a learning experience, and it gets better with time and practice.